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THOMAS PAIN
The voice behind Pain Point Copy
“—I believe empathy’s the key to building trust and driving real impact. Connection’s the spark. But with the right words, that spark creates action.”
My mission is to help B2B Coaches and Consultants connect with their audience using my unique Emotional Blueprinting™ framework.
Why Connection is the Foundation of Everything
Back in 2020, I hit rock bottom.
Isolated and disconnected from those around me, I was stuck in a living hell where even the simplest of interactions felt meaningless and empty.
It was the lowest point of my life. A time when loneliness weighed heavier than words could ever describe.
But in that darkness I discovered something profound. Something that many people take for granted: the power of connection.
When I began to see others, (and I mean truly see others), not just their words, but their emotions, their struggles, and their stories.. it awakened something in me:
— Empathy.
This realisation didn’t just help me rebuild my relationships, it transformed how I saw the entire world.
I learned that empathy isn’t just a bridge to others: it’s the very foundation of trust and meaningful connection.
It’s what allows us to inspire, support, and truly understand one another.
That’s the journey that led me to develop Emotional Blueprinting™
— A framework rooted in the belief that every great story starts with empathy.
Today it’s my mission to help others connect with their audience in a way that moves beyond words because deeper connection creates meaningful change.
The Framework That Turns Empathy into Impact
Every great message begins with a profound understanding of the people it’s meant to move.
Emotional Blueprinting™ is my proprietary framework that transforms words into emotionally resonating stories that inspire, connect, and compel action.
By mapping out the emotions, struggles, and desires of your audience, I craft messaging that speaks directly to their hearts.
This isn’t about manipulation.
— It’s about connection.
It’s about showing your audience that you understand them and offering solutions that truly matter.
With Emotional Blueprinting™, I turn your messaging into a powerful force that builds trust, sparks connection, and drives tangible results.
It’s how your voice rises above the noise, creating meaningful change and lasting impact.
The Archetypes That Guide My Mission
—Every brand has a story, and every story has its heroes. My mission is guided by the three core archetypes that shape the way I connect, create, and inspire change.
// The Empath //
The Empath looks beyond words to truly understand emotions, struggles, and aspirations. This archetype reminds me that empathy is the bridge to meaningful connection: It’s what transforms communication into something deeply human.
// The Guide //
The Guide lights the way, helping others navigate challenges with clarity and direction. Having walked my path of transformation, I now use my journey to help others cut through the noise and connect with purpose.
// The Creator //
The Creator turns ideas into reality, shaping stories that inspire and drive action. This archetype fuels my passion for crafting authentic, impactful narratives that create tangible, lasting results.
These archetypes are more than just symbols, they’re the principles that shape everything I do. The guiding forces from which my core values take root and flourish.
The Core Values That Shape My Work
—These values are the pillars of my work, shaping how I approach every project and every connection. They reflect not just what I believe, but how I choose to make an impact.
E M P A T H Y
Everything begins with empathy. Truly understanding others is the cornerstone of meaningful relationships and the secret to creating messaging that connects and inspires.
C O N N E C T I O N
Connection is about more than just meeting people: it’s about building bridges through trust and authenticity, creating relationships that stand the test of time.
G R O W T H
Growth is a journey, a process: not a destination. For me, it’s about constant improvement, and inspiring others to uncover and reach their fullest potential.
A U T H E N T I C I T Y
Authenticity means staying true to yourself and empowering others to do the same with honesty, courage, and confidence.
I M P A C T
Impact isn’t just about words, it’s about creating meaningful change, sparking actions and transformations that truly matter.
R E S P O N S I B I L I T Y
Responsibility means owning my work and actions to build trust and deliver results.
These values are my north star, shaping every connection, project, and challenge I take on. They’re not just what I believe, but how I strive to make a lasting impact in everything I do.
If these values resonate with you and align with your vision, let’s collaborate to create messaging that truly connects.
Want to Get to Know Me Better?
Here are a few fun facts:
Bruce Lee Changed My Life:
His teachings weren’t just about badass martial arts moves, to me they were a wake-up call. His philosophy on life inspired me to embark on my journey of Self-Actualisation. These days I track and document my growth through outlets such as daily journaling combined with my very own “Weekly Wins” concept — a collation of everything I’ve achieved throughout the week, big or small. And it’s these steps that bring me ever closer to living my dreams. (“Be water, my friend.”)
Roots in Buddhism:
Buddhism has become my anchor, teaching me mindfulness, compassion, and (perhaps hardest of all) the art of letting go. Meditation carves out stillness in the whirlwind of my day-to-day, bringing balance to my busy mind.
A Rare Personality Type:
INFJ: one of the rarest personality types (especially for men). Empathy, intuition, and forging deep connections: they’re my superpowers, and they fuel everything I do. (Move over, Avengers).
Daily Cold Showers:
Gruelling, awful, and.. oddly transformative. Sure, I hate them with an absolute passion, but they’re my secret weapon for building mental toughness and starting the day with a sharp, clear focus.
Mastering the Art of Strategy:
Chess isn’t just a game for me, but rather, a battleground for strategy and problem-solving. I’ve been playing for many years, on and off, and every match is a reminder that life, like chess, is simply all about the next move.
A Philosophy of My Own:
Back in 2018, I crafted a personal philosophy: The Nine Pillar Pathway. It’s been life-changing for me, evolving as I have, and it’s now in its second iteration (v2.0). One day I hope to share it far and wide, helping others transform their lives the way it’s transformed mine.
Walking Miles Every Day:
Since August 2024, I’ve hit 10k steps a day, every single day. It’s more than just a streak, it’s a commitment to consistency and movement, no matter the weather (or my mood). And no, I’m not stopping anytime soon.
Fitness Night Owl:
Midnight gym sessions? That’s my thing. Seven days a week you’ll find me lifting, sweating, and proving that discipline doesn’t care one little bit what the clock says.
Journaling and Mindset Mastery:
Every day begins and ends with rituals (not the satanic kind, mind you) that range anywhere from making the bed, to journaling, prayer, and a good dose of self-reflection. It’s my way of staying grounded, growing, and becoming a better version of myself.
Diving Deep into Focused Work:
Deep work is my daily non-negotiable: 4 to 8 hours of uninterrupted focus that keeps me locked onto my goals and steadily moving forward. It ain’t always glamourous, but it’s the backbone of progress.
Exploring the Subconscious:
Dreams are a doorway to the subconscious, one I’ve been exploring since September 2024. With over 150 dreams recorded, they’ve become a treasure trove of insights, fueling my creativity, growth, and decision-making. Every dream tells a story, and within each story lies the power to transform.